Most people use AI as an assistant. And to be fair, it’s great for that.
But I think moms, especially, are massively underutilizing it.
It can help you be more creative (not less), actually live your life (instead of just managing it), and act a true thought partner (not just an efficiency tool).
And if you’re feeling overwhelmed even thinking about where to start, you’re kind of the perfect candidate. No one has more reps at managing invisible complexity than a mom.
So instead of generic use cases, here’s how I actually use it. Not for tasks — roles.
I find myself going back to four, over and over:
Operator (help me run my life)
Point of view (give me direction based on me)
Advisor (help me decide faster)
Editor (refine my thinking)
Operator
This is where I try to turn my life into a system.
It is way simpler than it sounds.
I had Notion AI build a home maintenance schedule that automatically updates what needs to be done and when. But where this really clicked was layering in parenting.
Instead of reacting to things as they happen, I asked:
“Based on Sloane’s age and the typical developmental milestones between 4–8 months, what home safety and setup tasks should we get ahead of? Prioritize by urgency and flag anything we should do now vs. later.”
Instead of it coming back with a list, it came back with a plan (yay).
Things like anchoring furniture before she starts pulling up. Ordering and installing gates before crawling. Getting a high chair before we need it, not when we’re scrambling.
I even had it push everything to our to-do database in Notion with due dates. Done!
Because moms, more than anyone, know the exhausting part isn’t the work but having to think about the work constantly.
Point of View
We are consuming way too much. It’s actually kinda gross.
And somehow, despite that(!), we’re ending up with the same spaces, same clothes, same everything.
At some point, I realized I didn’t actually know what I like.
So, I went analog. I wrote out:
Words that feel like me
Spaces I’m drawn to (coffee shop, specific rooms, cities)
Colors, textures, materials I react to
Things I notice (what catches my eye)
People whose style I consistently gravitate toward
It honestly was very refreshing. To not doom scroll Pinterest (does this scream Millennial?) and just sit and think about what I gravitate towards. And what makes me, me.
Then I had Claude turn that into a reference document — basically a living POV on my style. And I use it constantly.
Rugs, layouts, art sizing, filling weird spaces. Most recently:
“Our home has slowly accumulated baby gear and clutter. What are the highest-leverage changes to bring it back to our aesthetic without being unrealistic about having an infant?”
Because usually it gets to a certain point where I don’t want or need any more ideas, just direction.
Advisor
There is a specific kind of fatigue that comes with too many options. Postpartum, everything has more variables than it used to.
Travel, products, plans — nothing is simple anymore (in the best way).
Some personal happenings led us to have an opening in May to travel. They say traveling with a three-month old is easy. Jury is still out, but we decided to find out anyway by taking advantage of the time we’ll “never have again” (in other words: how I justify most decisions these days).
Instead of starting from scratch, I asked:
“We’re considering a ~5 day trip in mid-May (Cam, me, Sloane). Needs to be nonstop or one-stop from Austin. Where should we go? Include pros/cons and a recommendation. Build a sample itinerary.”
I really did not have the mental capacity to research from zero. So this gave me a starting point I could actually react to. I went back and forth with it, refined the options, and then had it turn everything into a one-pager for Cam. Decision made!
See you in May, Amsterdam.
Editor
This one has been surprisingly useful.
I wanted something that could actually help me write in my voice — not generic, corporate, overly polished.
So I asked:
“Ask me anything you need to understand my writing style, then build a document I can reference.”
It broke it down into:
Who I’m writing for
How I sound
What I like writing about
How my writing is structured
What I don’t do (e.g. corporate or professional speak)
References + influences
Quick checklist when writing anything in my voice
Now anytime I have a thought, feeling, idea — I’ll voice memo it, dump it in, and have it help shape it into something more clear. Or I’ll give it a draft and have it tighten things up using that guide.
The key is that I’m not asking it to write it for me. I’m asking it to help me say what I’m already trying to say, but better.
Because if you just ask AI to write something, it will. And it will be… fine. Which is kind of the problem.
I’ve spent most of my career optimizing for productivity (sigh), so yes, I use AI for that too. But what surprised me is how much more I use it for thinking.
And honestly, that’s where it’s the most fun.
Steal these and make them your own. And tell me what you end up using it for!
Oh I loooove the point of view use! Will do the same ❤️